As Jesus passed by, he saw a man named Matthew sitting at the customs post. He said to him, “Follow me.” And he got up and followed him. While he was at table in his house, many tax collectors and sinners came and sat with Jesus and his disciples. The Pharisees saw this and said to his disciples, “Why does your teacher eat with tax collectors and sinners?” He heard this and said, “Those who are well do not need a physician, but the sick do. Go and learn the meaning of the words, ‘I desire mercy, not sacrifice.’ I did not come to call the righteous but sinners.” -Matthew 9:9-13
I’ve been sitting with this passage for the past few days and it’s had such an impact on me. Even though I’ve probably heard the principle beneath the surface several times before, this passage has taught me the key to discipleship. It’s a principle that could almost certainly be found other places in the Scriptures, especially anytime Jesus calls someone to follow him. Let’s take a closer look.
Up to this point, Matthew has been a tax collector. At the time of Jesus, tax collectors are known to be among the worst kind of people. They make their living by taxing people more than they ought. They either steal money from the poor or they make people poor. It’s gross. Anyways, that’s not the main point.
Jesus came to Matthew in his sinfulness and called him to be his disciple. Matthew got up and followed him. He left his entire livelihood behind at the sound of Jesus’ voice, the voice which can penetrate even the hardest of hearts. Powerful! What happened next is the main point I’m trying to get at. What did Matthew do when he began to follow Jesus? He ate with him and reclined with him. In other words, Matthew first rested with Jesus before doing anything else.
In our relationship with Jesus, we so easily get caught in the trap of thinking, “How can I serve you, Jesus? What do you want me to do for you? I’ll do anything if you just tell me to do it. What’s my vocation in life, anyways? What’s the mission you want to give me?” We’re so focused on serving the Lord that we forget discipleship begins with simply learning how to be with the Lord. Too many Christians have bought into the idea that being a disciple of Jesus Christ is all about working for him. If that’s all it’s about, then we’re nothing more than high-level servants of Jesus, but he wants so much more. He wants us to be his friends!
Discipleship begins with simply being, with spending quality time with Jesus. Once I learn my identity as a disciple of Jesus Christ, then I can go out and share in his mission. What is his mission? His mission is making more disciples, which means inviting more people to the table of Jesus! It means showing others how powerful it is to simply rest with Jesus!
The message of this passage is clear: disciples of Jesus Christ need to rest with their master, their friend, before they can do anything for him. Once they have rested, the work isn’t even done for Jesus, but it’s done with Jesus. Resting with Jesus can make a world of difference.
The mother of Jesus and his brothers came to him but were unable to join him because of the crowd. He was told, “Your mother and your brothers are standing outside and they wish to see you.” He said to them in reply, “My mother and my brothers are those who hear the word of God and act on it.” Luke 8:19-21
There are similar scenes in the Gospel of Matthew (12:46-50) and Mark (3:31-35) where Jesus seems to dismiss his family in favor of those right in front of him. These scenes cause us to ask at least two questions:
- Jesus had brothers? I thought Mary was and remained a virgin her entire life?
- Why is Jesus dismissing his family in such a rude way?
I guess that’s technically three questions. You’ll have to forgive my poor math skills. Let’s get to these questions.
First, it’s important to note – essential even – that the ancient Hebrew language had no word for “cousin” and the Greek word adelphoi has a broader meaning than blood brothers. Put those two facts together and we can see in the Scriptures a custom to use “brethren” for relationships other than blood brothers. In the Old Testament, a “brother” can range anywhere from a biological brother all the way down to two people bound by a covenant (2 Sam 1:26). St. Paul in the New Testament relates to his Israelite kinsmen as “brethren” (Rom. 9:3). He also gives the name “brethren” to biologically unrelated Christians in the New Covenant family of God. We hear this at Mass almost every Sunday: “A reading from the letter of St. Paul to the ________. Brothers and sisters…”
As for the question of whether Mary had other children after Jesus, a great place to look beneath the surface can be found in John 19:26-27. Jesus is dying on the cross and entrusts his mother to the Apostle John. From that point on, John tells us, he took her into his home. If Mary had other children, it would have been their responsibility to take care of Mary. Instead, Jesus entrusts her to St. John – who has no biological relation – in order to reveal a greater reality, which brings us to our second question: Why is Jesus dismissing his family in such a rude way?
This passage makes it seem as though Jesus is rejecting his family, but that’s not exactly what he’s getting at. You see, from beginning of time, God intended his people to be one family. When sin entered the world, the human family was broken and began to fracture more and more until nearly everyone lost sight of God’s original plan. How can we get back to that original plan? By hearing the word of God and acting on it! St. Matthew’s Gospel tells us that whoever does the will of God is the brother and sister and mother of Jesus. Jesus says in John’s Gospel, “You are my friends if you do what I command.” The three phrases mean the same thing: knowing what God desires and moving in that direction.
If I know God wants me to pray everyday, I am going to pray everyday. If I know God wants me to go to Mass on Sundays, I’m going to go to Mass on Sundays. If I know God wants me to feed that poor person, I am going to feed that poor person. If God wants me to repent of my sins, I’m going to repent of my sins.
You get the idea. Knowing what God desires and moving in that direction brings me back into God’s family and makes me the brother/sister/mother of Jesus. So, we can see that Jesus is not dismissing his biological family, but instead he’s elevating everyone else around him, reminding them that they can be part of his family, that they ought to be part of his family. This brings up an entirely new set of questions: Do I know the will of God? Have I heard God’s word and acted on it? Am I keeping Jesus’ commands?
Brothers and sisters, let’s listen to the Word of God and act on it.
Raising his eyes toward his disciples Jesus said:
“Blessed are you who are poor,
for the Kingdom of God is yours.
Blessed are you who are now hungry,
for you will be satisfied.
Blessed are you who are now weeping,
for you will laugh.
Blessed are you when people hate you,
and when they exclude and insult you,
and denounce your name as evil
on account of the Son of Man.
Rejoice and leap for joy on that day!
Behold, your reward will be great in heaven.
For their ancestors treated the prophets
in the same way.
There are four statements of blessing in this passage, four beatitudes we might say. Blessed are the poor, the hungry, those who are weeping, and those who are hated on account of the Son of Man (a.k.a. Jesus). Now, we can take all of these statements at face-value, and there would be nothing wrong or inaccurate to do so. We can also look beneath the surface and see something even more powerful. St. Ambrose, one of the great saints in the history of the Church, does just that. He compares these four blessings to what we call the Cardinal Virtues, namely temperance, justice, prudence, and fortitude. Let’s take a look:
Blessed are you who are poor… Why are they poor? This could mean the kind of poverty that immediately comes to mind, which is material poverty. Yet even those who are materially poor sometimes cling to the little bit that they have. So there must be more to the story. Jesus here is talking about those who choose to be poor, or who choose to have less, for the sake of Heaven. For this blessing, we can look to the virtue of temperance, which is simply defined as moderation or self-restraint. Those who are temperate know how to say, “I’ve had enough _____ right now,” or “I don’t need any ______ right now, even though it seems pleasing to me.” The “poor” in this blessing are temperate because they are shunning vanity and excessive pleasure for the sake of Heaven. Their poverty is a sign of their discipleship. Am I choosing poverty in any way for the sake of Heaven?
Blessed are you who are now hungry… Again, it seems there has to be more here than only lack of food to eat, for the same reasons as before. Jesus is talking about those who choose to be hungry. For this blessing, we can look to the virtue of justice, which is simply defined as the use of power to ensure each receives what is his/her due. The just person recognizes when others do not have something they ought to have – especially food and water – and then finds a way to help them get it. In this example, the “hungry” are exercising justice because they have given some of their own food to those who have none, since everyone ought to have enough food. They have made a sacrifice for their brothers and sisters in need! Have I given anything to my brothers and sisters in need?
Blessed are you who are now weeping… This weeping isn’t the result of any normal sorrow. No, this sorrow comes from looking at the world – perhaps even my own life – and seeing people turn away from the straight and narrow path. This blessing looks to the virtue of prudence, which is considered right judgment. When I exercise prudence, I am able to distinguish between those things and actions that will lead me closer to Heaven and those that will lead me further away from Heaven. Those who are weeping are weeping because they see so many people choosing things and actions that lead them away from eternal life with God. They are lamenting the vanities of the world, while keeping their own eyes fixed on eternal life. How often do I consider eternal life? Do I ever feel sorrow because of the vanities of the world?
Blessed are you when people hate you…on account of the Son of Man. As Christians, we have a duty to live holy and virtuous lives, but it doesn’t end with that. We also have a duty to tell people about Jesus and invite them into a living relationship with him. Obviously, not everyone is going to receive my words of preaching with gratitude and joy. In fact, many will outright reject the name of Jesus, and so will reject us. How do we respond? Hopefully, we respond with the virtue of fortitude, which is defined as courage and perseverance in the face of adversity. Those who have the virtue of fortitude will persevere in their evangelical efforts no matter the results they get. Even when the world rejects the name of Jesus, the courageous disciple will continue to announce to all those s/he encounters that s/he is a disciple of Jesus Christ. These people are hated, excluded, insulted, and denounced because they have persevered in their efforts to bring Jesus Christ into every corner of the world…and they will be blessed for it. Do I ever tell people about my relationship with Jesus? Do I ever tell them that they, too, can have a relationship with him?
There we have it: four blessings, four virtues. Let’s strive to live blessed lives.
Sing to the LORD a new song of praise in the assembly of the faithful.
Let Israel be glad in their maker, let the children of Zion rejoice in their king.
Let them praise his name in the festive dance, let them sing praise to him with timbrel and harp.
For the LORD loves his people, and he adorns the lowly with victory.
Let the faithful exult in glory; let them sing for joy upon their couches;
Let the high praises of God be in their throats. This is the glory of his faithful.
– Various parts of Psalm 149
One thing we’re really good at doing: making life a competition between God and us. The pleasures of the world seem so fun and exciting, while a virtuous life seems too bland and boring. We’re told that God wants us to choose the life of virtue, but life drenched in worldly pleasures seems too attractive. It’s easy for us to begin to think the Lord has it out for us, that he is only trying to ruin our fun.
We so quickly forget this line from the psalm up there: “For the Lord loves his people, and he adorns the lowly with victory.” We forget that the Lord actually loves us. And he doesn’t only love us, but he actually delights in us, just as a parent delights in their own child. He delights in us even as we struggle against sin. He delights in us even as we complain that choosing virtue is too hard. He delights in us in those times when we do choose virtue over the pleasure immediately in front of us. Even after we’ve fallen and look to him for comfort and forgiveness, He delights in us. He delights in us every time we take even the smallest step in his direction. The Lord isn’t interested in making life a competition! He wants his delight in us to be enough.
Let’s make ourselves more aware of the Lord’s love. Spend some time today and imagine the Father looking upon you with such great delight. Imagine the smile on his face, the same way you smile at a toddler or newborn baby. He’s so delighted to call you his child and he wouldn’t choose anyone else to take your place. He knows the struggle is hard, but he’ll be with you in that struggle, waiting for you to look to him and call upon his Name. As we consider the delight of the Lord, let’s also sing his praises. He won’t choose anyone else to be his child; let’s not choose anyone else to be our God.